Single Women Should Balance Their Work And Life.

Recently, a reporter interviewed Fang Yajing, a career guidance center of Tongji University, on the issue of single women.

Interviewer: do you think it is appropriate to call "old unmarried women" with the word "leftover woman"?

Fang Yajing: I think using leftover women as "unmarried women" contains discrimination.

It is more appropriate to call them "middle and young class".

Compared with "leftover women", which is a "tag" which can not be avoided, the "middle and young class" reflects an objective social phenomenon. "Especially for some urban women over the age of 30, they are mature and independent, but still live a free life like a girl".

Interviewer: what do you think?

Fang Yajing: because single women do not need to "educate their children" and have less housework, personal disposable time is mainly used for personal leisure, learning and other activities. That is to say, they can invest more time in enriching themselves, improving themselves and improving their performance, so as to gain an advantage in career development.

For women with higher education, due to the characteristics of family cycle, there are "two peaks and one trough" in the development of career.

The first peak is the first few years after entering the workplace after graduation. During this period, women or unmarried, or married but without children, can invest more energy in their work.

Later, with the birth of their children, it is natural to encounter the "low level" of career development.

Usually in the ten years after the age of 35, with the children can be trustee, and gradually self-reliance, then women can work in depth, and get the "second peaks" time and energy conditions.

But we know that modern society is changing rapidly. Women in the age of "second peaks", although they are more mature than the "first peak", have lost some opportunities for career development in the "low" stage. At the same time, in the face of competition in the "first peak" stage of workplace women and the men who have never left the field, they may encounter problems such as lack of explosive force, "no time to come back" and the accumulation of "silent cost" in the early stage. Some women are likely to no longer enter the second peak period of employment after the "low".

But for single women, because there is no pressure from family and children at the moment, we can link the "first peak" and "the second peak", and have a "accumulating growth explosion" process in career development, so as to achieve professional achievement on the basis of "the first peak" and enter the "career peak".

Interviewer: what do you think of single women?

Fang Yajing: in theory, single women in the workplace have more time for personal leisure, self-improvement, and work, but this does not mean that the realization of goals and success will happen naturally.

As a single woman in the workplace, if you just indulge in the "one person's natural and unrestrained", let the years go without plan, even if you can achieve material enrichment and ease of life, you will waste your unique advantages, and at the same time, you will not be able to meet the ultimate needs of "self actualization".

Therefore, the workplace single women should also do their career planning as early as possible, establish career goals on the basis of understanding themselves, establish their long-term goals according to their actual needs and environmental conditions, and find the path to achieve them.

Time as a resource, if not properly managed, there is a possibility of being wasted. If a single woman in the workplace can grasp the unique advantage of the natural connection between "the first peak" and "the second peak", this golden time will bring huge benefits.

Therefore, I suggest that single women should make time schedules according to their goals, monitor and limit the "time burglars" in life, and properly balance their work and life, and become masters of time management.

Interviewer: how do you think a single woman can adjust herself?

Fang Yajing: Although single women in the workplace are temporarily free from the multiple burdens between "workplace" and "family", they may be subjected to various emotional distress and pressure from all sides. For example, the enthusiasm of people around them and their indisposition to their bachelors will also have their own inner contradictions and puzzles.

Emotional distress may affect them, so that they can not concentrate their energies on career development.

The first step of emotional adjustment is to objectively and rationally understand the current state of their own. Single women in the workplace should have a clear answer to "my current state", "why I am in such a state", "my next plan and plan" and "what I can do". Only by strengthening faith and confidence can we plan for our future and lay a solid foundation for the future.

At the same time, it is also necessary to develop their interests and hobbies and establish their own social circles to enrich their lives, cultivate their sentiments and get a high quality spiritual life.