5 Kinds Of Flowers Do Not Work In The Workplace.

"Before I took part in the work, I kept telling myself that" silence is golden ", but I can't beat my nature. If I see those unfair things, I will be excited, I will be unworthy of others, and even rush to go out to replace others, even offend people.

After work, I am not as happy as I was at school. "

Xiaomin, a job newcomer who worked for 2 months, wrote in his QQ diary.

The experts summed up 5 typical mistakes in handling interpersonal relationships after entering the new job. Their performance is similar to 5 kinds of flowers in nature.

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Shy flowers: shy

Scene playback: Xiaofang, who doesn't talk much after graduation, finally went to the civil service without any serious expectation. She thought that the paperwork itself should be handy, but only 2 months later she said she was afraid of going to work.

She said she was afraid of seeing some of the leaders.

Although the leader is both professional and talented, she doesn't know why he can't hide when he sees him.

Once, because she didn't hear clearly what the leader meant, her work was delayed. After that, the leader questioned why she didn't come over to ask again. She whispered, "you're too busy and time consuming."

As a result, the leader was very angry and trained her face to face.

For a long time, Xiao Fang was very nervous and nervous when he saw the leader.

"I don't know why. Every time I see a leader, I feel panic. Just like a mouse sees a cat, it's too nervous to say."

Xiao Fang said.

Comment:

Communicating with superiors is an important responsibility in the work. We need to understand the intention of our superiors, get support, grasp our future work direction, and unify our pace in planning, and achieve good work results.

Only dealing with superiors.

Only in this way can normal work be carried out.

Communicating with superiors is a skill that requires continuous learning and improvement. The newcomers should adopt the communication frequency, language style, attitude and mood that the boss is willing to accept, so that they are clear, rational and easy to understand.

For Xiaofang, we may try to look at the leadership with the mentality of working together to work together. At the same time, we must realize that communication with superiors can not evade, is the most important part of the work, so gradually eliminating the fear of the boss's psychology.

The flower of the cactus is hard and spiny.

Scene replay: Xiao Chun is a top student of journalism in a prestigious university. When she graduated, she entered a national publication as a reporter.

In addition to her, there were young people who came from other media. Everyone thought they had strong abilities, and their working methods and concepts were different.

On one occasion, the editor in chief sent Xiao Chun and another colleague to work together on a hot topic. However, she felt that the value of the topic was not as good as the one she had reported, so she was doing her own work on the side of her colleagues.

As a result, colleagues could not deliver the manuscript on time, and her own manuscript was killed by the editor in chief.

Xiao Chun even ran to the editor in chief to talk. After that, he still had two days' sick leave before he came back.

Colleagues feel that her ability is good, but always arrogant, and now offend the leadership, we do not buy her account.

"I have my own ideas and I don't like being commanded every day.

Is it wrong for me to make the manuscript more readable? Why can't the editor in chief listen to my suggestions? My colleagues do not understand me. I am so depressed! "Xiao Chun complained.

Comment:

"Spiked employees" often have the skills, ability, energy, dislike of others and even bosses in front of themselves.

However, as a new person in the workplace, at the beginning of the entry, we should learn to converge with our own thorns.

Remember, only when you are a "good user" in the workplace can you get the favor of your boss.

Even if the boss's judgment is not correct, it should also change the work objectives under the premise of effective communication and recognition. Otherwise, it will not only drag the colleagues out of the task, but also harm the boss no longer trust himself.

The flower of the wall:

Playback: ah Yu has a gentle personality, and everyone in the office is safe.

For half a year, she never insisted on her opinions too much and easily refutes others' opinions.

In the eyes of her colleagues, she is a good person, but because she is too good to speak, her words have never attracted enough attention from others.

Sometimes, it is clear that their work is not finished yet, but they have to copy their materials for their colleagues, and work overtime themselves. Weekend duty, other colleagues always have such things that are too busy to get out of the body, only jade is always on duty for others.

Six months later, he only had 3 double breaks.

"I don't want to offend my colleagues, I can help, but after a long time, they think I should do it.

Last week, I was not able to work at all. I didn't think that Zhang Jie, who was supposed to be on duty, had a great opinion of me. I really felt very bad when I said that I didn't help others.

Ah Yu said.

Comment:

To be a good old person in the office does not necessarily mean that everyone likes you; in fact, in a competitive job market, only when the ability to work is recognized, can you become a real strong person.

Remind yourself of what you really want. When you know what the right choice is, but because you don't want to offend people, you will be the first to compromise yourself.

In fact, people who refuse to learn are often good at communication and coordination, so that those who are rejected will not become their enemies.

When you are always in a state of control, take time to communicate and coordinate with those who always dominate you, and prioritize your work so as to optimize your behavior pattern.

Narcissus flower: narcissism

Scene replay: Zhang Chao's company is very large and he has worked very hard, so he hopes to be recognized and promoted at an early date.

But over the past year, Zhang Chao has never been promoted.

As for the reason why there is no promotion, Zhang Chao believes that his boss likes to take credit and his colleagues envy him.

For example, every time the company planning meeting, Zhang Chao felt that his proposal was the most perfect, but his colleagues often disagreed.

Zhang Chao has always been unable to get promoted. He feels that he is "very talented".

Finally, he decided to leave the company, and his boss didn't keep it.

However, Zhang Chao thought his boss would regret it when he left, because he could not do many things without himself.

Comment:

Some people work hard every day and think they are doing very well. At the same time, he is not good enough every day: he is so excellent, why can't his boss know his pearl and find himself? In fact, many people think themselves "good performance" leaders do not necessarily acknowledge accounts.

All should start from the reality of work and respect the real experience.

Admit your own shortcomings, be willing to reflect on your mistakes, be good at flexibility, and not stubborn and conservative.

For newcomers, the ability is stronger, the mentality should be calm, the expectations are lowered, and with the learning attitude, there may be more opportunities.

The flower of dog tail flower: blind obedience

Playback: Wang Li graduated from university last year, and after a few days as a secretary in a trading company, there was a problem of interpersonal relationship.

Wang Li was extroverted and intelligent, and soon became a supervisor's attendant.

When you eat, help your boss to pour tea and water; your boss's adult education thesis is written to the wee hours of the morning, and even the children are sent to their superiors on weekends.

Some of the company's colleagues could not see it, saying that she was a real apple polisher.

Over time, colleagues did not like to talk to her, but Wang Li's affairs, colleagues are reluctant to help.

Comment:

Comply with workplace etiquette, do not have to meet the boss everywhere.

Usually, the boss is concerned about whether the new person is willing to learn, whether he can achieve the expectation of recruitment, if he can quickly integrate into the workplace and create business value for the company, the newcomers can not be flattering and flattering, but can also be recognized by their superiors.

Otherwise, it will easily lead to tension between colleagues and restrict themselves to isolation, which is not conducive to long-term development.

There will be some inadaptations in job placement. This is why every new person needs to experience "adaptation" when he enters the workplace.

Only when we adjust ourselves quickly in the environment and fully integrate with the workplace, can we improve our comprehensive ability as soon as possible in accordance with our professional positioning and goals.

Experts remind workplace newcomers, while seriously working, do not neglect the handling and balance of interpersonal relationships. Never do the unpleasant cactus and dog tail flowers in the office.

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